"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean spirited things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us to take offense. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended us is fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."
David A. Bednar
I love this....I have had times that I have to talk myself through things. I say "choose not to be offended" or I say over and over "you have a choice to not take offense."
I also pray then, to understand the intentions of others hearts, and that others will know the intent of mine.