Tuesday, March 4, 2008

SPT-extra special

She Photographs on Tuesday

"the spt challenge for next week is to photograph something that is extra special about you. it might be a physical feature, a talent, or an unknown secret. this spt is all about you!"

I was born with a birthmark on the side of my face. It has never bothered me-I have never minded having it.

I can only remember being teased about it once.

I was on a boat with 3 others, and when it happened everyone just looked at the person. Nobody laughed or reacted- just stared.

I have only had 1 complete stranger talk to me about it.

I was a server at the Olive Garden in Provo, and a man from another table motioned me over and said "you can have that removed, you know-and it would probably be a good idea to." I answered that I had been seen by a Dr, and they felt everything was fine, and that it did not bother me.

A few years later, I went in for an examination, and had a biopsy done on a dark spot, and a mole removed right next to it. There was a mix up on the tests, and they had me worried for a bit. They sent it off for a second biopsy and everything was fine. They felt that keeping my birthmark would be just fine.

In December I was at the Dr. for bronchitis,and during the exam, he started looking at my birthmark and commented that I should really have somebody check it out. I went over my history with him, and he recommended that I just get it re-checked. I have yet to make that appointment.

My birthmark is a part of me- but I forget I have it.

I think that a lot of people who know me get so used to it that they forget I have it too. I have had several people say, that they forgot I had one, when the subject of birthmarks comes up.

A funny thing...a neighbor just this Christmas, asked if I had hurt myself on the side of my head. I said, no, why, is there something there? I reached up to the side of my face, and just as I realized he was talking about my birthmark, his wife said-"honey thats her birthmark"-he replied that he had never noticed it before.

Little children will sometimes ask what it is.
All my kids as baby's have touched it, and looked on the other side of my face to see if I have one there.

I am totally comfortable with a birthmark on my face.

19 comments:

Sandi said...

What a great post. I have always been jealous of people with birthmarks. My daughter has a brown dot on her hand. I love her birthmark. What a kewl lady you are.

Hannah said...

This is SO cool. I love your thoughts on your birthmark being a part of you. The assumptions that others would think you want it removed is interesting- like it is this huge flaw or something. I think birthmarks add character- I love the ones my daughters have.

Amber said...

That was a cool SPT! My oldest daughter has a pretty large (and VERY DARK) birthmark over her right breast. She's only 6, but a couple of times I've brought up the topic about getting it removed. She always gets very defensive and says, "No! It's how I know I was born!"

Jennifer H. said...

Awesome post. I have a very large birthmark on my back and was always self conscious of it. Then I grew up and got over it. I forget about mine for months at a time too.

Jenn said...

Really liked this, Alisa, very nice.

I have a skin tag thing by my right ear that I was born with. It looks kind of like a zit! But I've had similar experiences with mine - my kids wondering about it, people asking if something bit me, etc. but mostly, i forget it is there, too.

lelly said...

i've had freckles my whole life, but no birthmarks. my cousin had a huge strawberry patch until she was about 10, and i thought that was VERY cool.

Meghan said...

I have a birthmark on the back of my neck shaped like an ice cream cone. I never think about it because I never see it, but sometimes when I where my hair up, someone will comment. I loved your post. Very insightful as always.

Sarah said...

This is a great post. I have a lot of moles and was always really self-conscience of them growing up, but now embrace them. How wonderful that you have always embraced yours.

Laurie said...

I think it's really weird that other people - strangers even - would make those kind of comments to you about your birthmark. It's totally a unique thing! Good post.

S.Ghosh said...

gr8 thoughts behind .....birth marks are special ....i agree with you

April said...

Great post. I love my kids birthmarks. It is just one more thing that helps make us unique.

Holly said...

Birthmarks are like kisses from Heavenly Father - my son has a small one on his inner arm - they call it "cafe o'lait" because it is like yours light colored. That's interesting a stranger told you to get it removed! I thought the rule was if it didn't have a new bump or grow you're set - I think it's great! Thanks for sharing something extra special!

Katie A. said...

Thanks for visiting my blog! I also have a birthmark on the side of my face. It's actually mostly hidden in my hair line. Apparently when I was little, my doctor thought it looked suspiciously like a cigarette burn. My mom got questioned about how it got there, and had to convince them it had always been there. Neither of my parents smoked.

Anonymous said...

I think you are beautiful!

Jay said...

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kristi said...

oh my this is so beautifully written. you will treasure that you wrote this down.

Linda said...

Thank you for posting this. My daughter has a cafe au lait tear drop shape just under her left eye. I used to worry that kids would tease her. One day my brother said, "Someday a young man may think that is the most unique, cutest most beautiful thing he ever saw." Not that male approval is everything to me and esp. for my girls, but somehow, in the moment, it meant a lot to me. She never says anything about it. She's 15. I love her little birthmark.

Amanda L. said...

Very cool. It does make you unique. You have a good perspective on this.

Anonymous said...

I have a red birthmark over my right cheek, i have had many people ask me about it and i've learned ot just ignore it. it's kinda like my trademark, i feel that without it i wouldn't be me.